Don’t wash your baby’s head with brandy

…and other pearls of motherly wisdom

By Andrea Hagan

 

Break out the high ball glasses, it’s time for motherly advice circa England, 1878!

While recently on vacation, I stumbled upon a funky gift shop with a great selection of odd ball merchandise.  A little pocket sized reference book “Don’ts for Mothers” caught my eye.  Intrigued by the title, I flipped through and read the introduction/admonishment: this book “ought not to be listlessly read, merely as a novel or as any other piece of fiction[. . . .]” Oh contraire, no listless reading here!  I immediately headed for the checkout line when I landed on this tidbit – “Don’t feel it necessary to wash your infant’s head with brandy.”  A brandy bath?  Now, bathtub gin I’ve heard of, but I’m unfamiliar with brandy as part of your child’s hair care routine. What other maternal knowledge has been lost to antiquity?!  Let’s read on and find out, shall we?

 

On Potty training:
“Don’t allow a babe’s clothes to become wet with urine.  Children can be taught cleanliness, by putting a vessel under their lap when there is a sign of evacuation and will soon be not content to do without it.  This practice may begun at five or six weeks.”
FIVE OR SIX WEEKS!  This idea is actually big in the crunchy community.  Alicia Silverstone is a big proponent of “elimination communication” or just watching closely and holding baby over the potty before you think he or she is about go.  While I’m a somewhat crunchy mommy, I just never got into this, diapers just seemed easier. Although now with a two and a half year old daughter who flat out refuses to use her potty, I can see the appeal of beginning the training earlier, when “NO” has yet to enter the vocabulary!

 

On dealing with the crushing disappointment of failing to give your husband a male heir:
“Don’t be disappointed when you learn that “it” is a girl and not a boy.  Don’t let that disappointment tinge your treatment of your girls.  A girl is every bit as important to this world as a boy.”
Just take a page from Kim Kardashian’s play book and when at first you first don’t succeed, (allegedly, per US Weekly, and if you can’t trust US Weekly for truth in reporting then who can you trust I ask?) spend big bucks with IVF and gender selection to ensure you give Kayne a boy and keep that gravy train a going!

 

On dressing your child:

“Don’t talk about dress but be careful always to have your own dress neat and well-fitted . . . . By these means, children will form the habit of dressing well.”

Hum, I don’t think the sweats that I’ve worn for two days in a row passes muster.  Okay, I know I own pants that require the use of a belt somewhere around here….

 

On decorating the nursery:

“Don’t hang the nursery walls with paintings of bad quality.  The horrid daubs and bad engravings that usually disfigure nursery walls are enough to ruin the taste of a child.”

Ah, words to live by.  What, you don’t have an original Picasso above your baby’s crib?  Well, I just hope you can live with yourself knowing that you’ve singlehandedly ruined your child’s artistic palate.  Although if your horrid nursery daubs keep your child from growing up and majoring in Art History in college, then maybe this one should be a “do” instead of a “don’t.”

 

On Discipline:

“Don’t punish a child too harshly.  A punishment should always be as mild as it can be.  Small children may be sent to bed without supper or tied to an arm-chair, or sent out of the room and forbidden to return.”

Can someone say referral to the Department of Children’s Services?

 

On raising a high spirited daughter:

“Don’t be afraid if your daughter should acquire masculine habits, or rough manners.  As growing children they should have free use of their limbs and are likely to be the most graceful and healthy in adulthood.”

Thank goodness!  I often feel that I’m in a cage match with Ronda Rousey, AKA my toddler daughter, whether it be trying to change her clothes, brush her teeth, or her best MMA move, the lap sitting that turns into wallowing that then turns into her elbow being thrust into my pick a body part – sternum, chin, stomach, breast, etc.  All I know is that her baby brother’s gonna have to acquire “rough manners” pretty quickly if he wants to survive in this household.

 

And my personal favorite:
“Don’t permit a youth to play the flute, blow the bugle or any other wind instrument.  It is injurious to health; the lungs and windpipe are brought into unnatural action by them.”
How many youth must suffer before we act?  I say this category must be expanded to include the piccolo, horn and trombone.  Woodwind instrumental injury is an avoidable injury.  We need a Sarah McLachlan PSA ASAP!  Although I’m not sure Sarah is a woodwind musician.  Scratch that, let’s go with Kenny G., that easy listening elevator music, maybe he’s playing his saxophone in the elevator and because he’s so focused on said wind instrument, his lustrous hair gets caught in the elevator door, leading to his untimely demise.  Now, that’d get your attention more than those angel eyed dog and cat commercials ever could!

 

As I finish the “Don’ts” and my glass of Brandy, I realize that many years from now we’ll look back on the “don’ts” that today’s experts have come up with and laugh at the absurdity.  The bottom line?  Follow your motherly instincts and do the best job you can.  Now that’s a toast (or a bath?), so drink (or bathe) up!
Hope all the Mommies out there had a wonderful Mother’s day, till next month!

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Lifestyle: Backyard Getaway Step 1

By Tilly Dillehay

 

My husband and I live in the little rural town of Hartsville, TN. But we live on a street, like real city folk. No winding gravel roads and gorgeous green woods behind our house. We’ve got a cute little landscaped front yard that we inherited, and a backyard that looks invitingly onto a rusty shed and the back of a church building that abuts our property.

This back yard has been a quandary since we moved in. What to do with it? It’s ugly, bare, and useless. Well, this year I’m doing something about it. In addition to planting a little veggie garden on the back edge of this yard, I’ve decided to create a little oasis right in the middle of it.

This is something I’ve seen online that is just the tiniest bit redneck, but seems to really do the job: canopy tents as stand-in for actual covered porch. So when I saw this burgundy 10 x 10 pop-up tent at my local Fred’s last week, I just bit the bullet and brought it home.

Then, to inaugurate the search for outdoor furniture, I purchased a lovely antique cot from a store in Gallatin. The cot looks like maybe early- or mid-20th century, made of canvas and wood. Not only that, but it lays very comfortably, and as soon as I set it up under the tent, my daughter toddled over, laughed, climbed on, and plopped there like it was the best thing she’s ever sat on.

It was $45–a chunk of my very low budget for this project–but it answers for a bench, and now I only need two chairs. I plan to make my own little table out of pallet wood.

Let me know what you think!

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The cot folds into a cunningly small shape, but when opened up, could seat 3-4 people comfortably. Here, Norah looks very sunburnt but this is all due to our new cheap burgundy tent:)
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Recipe for this green smoothie we shared outside to celebrate: *almond milk *banana *lots of spinach *a bit of local honey *stevia *chia seeds *hemp seeds

 

 

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Recipe: Red Onion Flowers

By Tilly Dillehay

I don’t know about you, but when my husband asks me what’s for dinner, I generally find myself leading with whatever I know he’s going to be most excited about. If we’re having steak, for instance, you better believe that’s the first thing coming out of my mouth when he asks what we’re having.

Well, when I make these onion flowers, I kid you not… that’s what I lead with. He loves these things, so much so that they sell rest of the meal.

I love them too. They hit every category of food desirability, in my eyes. Healthy? Check. It’s an entire onion per person, full of antioxidant flavonoids and phytochemicals. Cheap? Nothing cheaper than a bag of onions from Aldi. Pretty? These things make the centerpiece of the prettiest plates I ever serve.

Delicious? You better believe it. I like to serve them with baked sweet potatoes and chicken tenderloin breaded in almond flour. Something about the red onion, slightly caramalized, still a little bit crisp, with the sweet potato, just WORKS.  It’s the perfect bite assemblage.

Ingredients:

  • 4 small red onions
  • 3 Tbsp olive oil
  • 3 Tbsp balsamic or red wine vinegar
  • 2 Tbsp capers, from a jar
  • salt and pepper

Directions:

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1. Preheat oven to 400. Peal the outer layer of your onion. Slice just the very toughest part of the base of each onion off. Leave some of the base to act as bottom weight for the onion.

 

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2. Make four cuts in the onion through the top, at crossways, like cutting a pie. Be very careful not to cut all the way through. This will leave your onion with 8 visible sections
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This is what happens when you cut too far. You can still cook and eat this delicious onion, but it’s not going to be pretty.
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3. Place your onions on a baking sheet, with plenty of space between (they’ll grow!). Tug them just slightly open so that you can glimpse inside flesh. Drizzle olive oil and vinegar on top, then sprinkle with salt, pepper, and capers.
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4. Lay a sheet of foil on top, and place in the oven to bake for 20 minutes. Remove foil and bake for 15-20 minutes more, until onions are tender, and slightly blackened at the tips.
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4. Serve with meat and another side, remembering to spoon capers on top as you transfer from baking sheet. You’ll need a knife and fork for onion flower deconstruction and perfect bite assemblage.

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Rose’: the politician of the wine world

By Brooke Porter, Market Basket Wine and Liquors

Rose’ [“rose-ay”] just might be the politician of the wine world and a popular one at that. I have a passion for rose’ and I’m not alone. Every year, myself and others like me look forward to the season’s new releases of rose’ wines, specifically from France.

These wines speak of their terroir so gracefully. I think I also enjoy them because of the dichotomy of this wine. It’s not red and it’s not white. What is it exactly? It suits us all. It unites all wine drinkers like a good politician. I find it to be very patriotic, for it stands for freedom in winemaking and freedom in drinking. Rose’ allows no particular classification such as red and white define it. It is pink! It’s like the third party of wine.

Rose’ is what red wine tastes like when it is made like a white wine. The grapes and the blending percentages are identical from red to rose’. Winemakers allow skin contact with the grape just long enough for a certain amount of color in the wine from bright fuscia to pale pink. Much like some politicians, a rose’ can range from conservatively pale pink to liberal, brash magenta. There are several methods from gently pressing the grapes to letting the weight of the grapes press grapes down (Saignee’ method), to limited maceration where the juice rests on its skins in a tank for 2-20 hours. All to reach a desired color and profile.

This wine is a red wine that morphed itself into a wine for drinking all year ’round. It had a wardrobe change, walked out as a whole other wine, and folks still love it. We clamor for more, although it seemingly has no true identity. Only a good politician could pull this off.

I found a passion for this wine and a desire to learn more after spending several days in the South of France in September 2006 driving around visiting different towns. This area holds many Roman ruins and establishments from the Crusades. The wines from this region illustrate the stories of the region beautifully.

Chateaus have been making wine in areas around the French Southern coast since the Middle Ages. Many towns reside enclosed by stone walls on top of hills. Pomegranate tree lined cobblestone walkways where chariots passed. Yellowing leaves on the grapevines in the rolling hills of vineyards. Chateaus, farms and flowers and food, lots of ruins and lots of wine. In the grocery store there were entire aisles dedicated to rose’… A veritable wall of gorgeousness on either side of me. My journey had begun and I had no idea at the time of the significance. Probably because my experience with rose’ had been so limited up until this time. I had finally joined the legion of rose’ drinkers.

Rose’ builds a bridge of commonality for wine drinkers. No one doesn’t like rose’. She promises Freedom and delivery from a boring existence. She gives everyone what they want. She makes the people smile. Rose’ is a winning choice for Fourth of July as we celebrate our hard fought freedom. And the country with whom we share a July celebration of freedom is France. Rose’ is our winning candidate in 2016.

Indeed, I think rose’ should be the wine to drink during the presidential campaign… as it may unite us all if we give it a chance!

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One year later… for the graduates

By Angel Kane

One year ago this week, our oldest graduated from high school. A few months later we dropped her off at her college dorm and I cried all the way home. I wrote about the experience in one of my articles and soon after, while walking at the park, one of our readers, who I didn’t know, shouted out to me “She will be ok. More than ok. I promise it gets easier.” 

She was right. Our oldest, now home for the summer, did just fine. And you know what? We survived too.

Right before I left her dorm that first time, I took a Telling Tales column I had written for her and taped it to her wall. In honor of all our local graduates who are about to venture out into this big world, we are reprinting the article again.

We are so proud of all of you! Remember to work hard & dream big and the rest will take care of itself.

 A feeling of both melancholy and excitement has prevailed in the Kane household for the last year. Senior year has been upon us.

Each month, each memory, each minute has been cherished like no other, knowing that our job (at least for now) is done. Hoping we taught her all the right lessons, while wishing we had often set a better example.

There has been so much I’ve wanted to say to her, teach her, show her this last year, all the while understanding that the real lessons in life will come from figuring it out on her own.

And yet, if she were to indulge me, I’d write it all down for her, place a copy in her suitcase and hope that when she came to that fork in the road, she’d pull out my map of lessons learned and they’d help guide her home.

 

  1. SAY YES! This is your time, say yes to it. Say yes, to staying up all night, eating fattening foods and laughing with friends until tears stream down your face. Say yes, to unknown places, unknown people, unknown ways of thinking. Say yes to opportunities that make no sense, jobs you may not think you’ll like, invitations to events you’d rather not attend. Say yes to roller coasters, dancing on tables, foods you can’t pronounce, trips that consist of only a backpack and a map. Take in all the Yes moments, as those are the ones that’ll teach who you are and who you’re not.
  1. SAY NO! Follow your instincts and if you feel the word No deep within your gut, then be sure to shout it out, as loudly as you can! You’ll be amazed how strong that word can make you feel. Never do anything that feels wrong, hurts others or hurts yourself. There is no shame in not joining the crowd but there is no greater shame than knowing you did something you can’t be proud of. The word No can be the loneliest word in the world and yet you will grow to be the person you are meant to be, more so in the No moments, than even in the Yes moments.
  1. MISTAKES HAPPEN. No one is perfect and those who profess to be are usually the most flawed. I’ve made many mistakes in my life, the kind that still make me cringe. Don’t dwell on them. So you said it, did it, meant it at the time and now know to never do it again. Admit it, accept it and move on. Believe me, there is always someone that will follow, that’ll earn an even bigger headline than you did.
  1. SAY I’M SORRY. I’ve learned this little gem after almost two decades of practicing law. I see it every day. People can save themselves so many headaches and heartaches by saying two simple words – I’m sorry. Say it and mean it. If the person doesn’t accept it, then show them you mean it. If they still can’t forgive you then know that some things can’t be forgiven but forgive yourself and do better next time.
  1. MARRY THE NICE GUY. Boys, boys boys! There are lots out there and you will meet many. Some will have country club credentials, others will be cocky and crazed, but look past all of them and find the nice guy sitting back, taking it all in. Your friends will all like him, your Mother will adore him, your Dad will respect him, he’ll love you even on your meanest, fattest, ugliest of days because he only sees the you, you are meant to be. Marrying a nice guy means a life filled with very few worries. He will always treat you as his equal, he will always work just as hard as you will to make your dreams come true, he will always be as kind to you as he is to others.
  1. NEVER SAY THE WORDSI WANT TO MARRY A DOCTOR OR LAWYER. Instead be the lawyer, doctor, teacher, social worker or x-ray tech! If I’ve taught you anything, I hope it’s been that girls can do anything. You are smart, composed and brave. Education is more than just learning, it’s the power to create your own destiny.
  1. THE ANSWER IS ALWAYS NO, UNLESS YOU ASK. I know it’s tough to ask people for a job, a favor, a piece of advice but you’ll be amazed by what you’ll learn if you just ask. And then never forget to pay it forward. People are going to help you along the way which means one day you’ll be tasked with returning those favors, two-fold, to someone less fortunate.
  1. PICK YOUR TEAM. Nothing gets your old Mom more worked up than people who don’t pick their team. Not everyone will be on your team and not everyone will pick you for their team, but don’t ever sit on the fence. Pick your team and then fight for that team. Stay loyal, be relentless, stay informed. This is your world and if you don’t take a stand for it, then you can’t complain about it.
  1. BE KIND, WORK HARD, LAUGH OFTEN. If you remember nothing else please remember these three things. Be kind to everyone you meet, even your enemies because it’s never about them, but about you. Be kind to people from all walks of life, because, but for a few wrong choices or a few unlucky breaks, you could be them. Work hard. Nothing in life comes easy. You have to work for it, you have to work sometimes till the words on the paper become blurry and your bones become sore. You will come to find, however, that there is no better feeling than accomplishing a goal you earned on your own. Then Laugh. Enjoy this world, laugh out loud, smile, giggle, be funny and have fun. A good laugh can make even the worst of days, worst of experiences, worst of situations, 1000 times better.

And above all else, this is your time to close your eyes and jump!

You may tumble and fall but eventually you’ll stand on your own two feet and those same feet will one day carry you home.

Angel Kane can be reached at angel@wilsonlivingmagazine.com

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May-June 2016 Digital Edition!

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Magic in the Paint

ElizaBy Elizabeth Scruggs

Photos by Chesley Summar

 

I think most of us would agree that when it comes to transforming a space, the quickest (and oftentimes least expensive) way, is with color. A $30 gallon of paint holds within its realm so much possibility. Fresh, new, possibility—and this is the time of year we all want that!

Color is such a powerful thing. It has the ability to affect our mood, our thinking, and even how we associate things with one another. That’s why I’m always baffled when someone puts more thought into what they are having for lunch than what colors they are going to paint their home.

A few of the most often asked questions I receive are these: “What color should I paint my ______?”  (You fill in the blank.)  Or, “What color is popular right now?”  (Really?  You want to paint your home the “popular” color?)  And the best one is this: “I saw this new paint color in my friend’s house, and it was FABULOUS! Just fabulous I tell ya!  So I painted my den the same color and it’s AWFUL! They must have mixed it wrong… it looks nothing like her house!”

Let me fill you in on a little secret… there is no magic paint color.  Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it doesn’t work that way. What you have to discern when painting a space is undertone and placement. THIS is the secret.  This is why your friend’s color doesn’t look good in your space.  If you don’t take into consideration the undertones of the fixed elements in the space, the lighting and its direction in the space, and the placement of the color in the space; it will read wrong every single time.

Here are a few examples on one of my current jobs.  My client has lived in her beautiful home for a couple of years, and she was so spot-on in the selection of all her millwork and detailing of her new build. However, when I initially consulted with her, she said it she didn’t feel as if it were warm or pulled-together. As we walked room to room, she began to tell me she didn’t like this color or that color, and before leaving she asked me to paint wherever I felt might need a fresh look. It wasn’t that she needed a fresh look, it was that the colors chosen needed to work cohesively with the beautiful detailing of the home.

 

DINING ROOM

The first room you see when entering the home is this beautiful dining room with a radius window wall and curved tray ceiling.  However, instead of noticing the detailing in the windows and radius, your eye is drawn to the division in the wall with contrasting warm and cool colors working against each other on either side of the chair rail.  By simply extending the wainscoting to the other side of the cased opening and painting it out in the trim color, the space instantly changes and all you see are the details, not the paint.

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COLUMN

Viewing the dining room from the foyer, you immediately notice the stained column. This architectural feature was placed in the house and plan for support, and to define the parameter of the dining room. By staining the column, it disappears into the den beyond, fades into the stone of the fireplace, and shows no relation to the dining room. However when painted out in the trim color, it provides definition to the space and anchors the dining room.

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GREAT ROOM

In this great room view, there are three colors with three very different undertones. Identifying them, and choosing hues with complimentary undertones make the new colors work together instead competing with each other. This was a hard sell to my client, Ginger, because she loved her blue in the kitchen. But I believe, if asked, she would say this is one of her favorite changes.

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MASTER BEDROOM

In the master bedroom before, the placement of the dark color on the wall and in the tray ceiling created division in the space.  By lightening the walls, and raising the dark hue to the ceiling draws your eye up, and makes this large room seem even larger.

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Many thanks to my clients, Brad and Ginger Raines, for allowing me to share their incredible home with Wilson Living readers.  As of press time, we were not completed with this project.  If you want to follow our progress, like Superior Construction and Design on Facebook to see the rest of this breathtaking home.   It was especially fun to feature Ginger’s home as she is a mutual client of mine and my Wilson Living: Coming Home photographer Chesley Summar’s.

For more information on Chesley and Ginger:

Chesley Summar:  www.chesleysummarphotography.com

Ginger Raines:  www.intriguegym.com

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Recipe: Strawberry Rosemary Pie

By Tilly Dillehay

I stopped by a produce stand in my little town this morning and brought home a little box of strawberries. Fresh from a run, I was both hungry and thirsty, and a glimpse of that red fruit on the side of the road just called to me.

When I got the strawberries home, I discovered that although perfectly ripe and with just the right texture, they weren’t as sweet as I would have liked. Solution?

One word. Pie.

I went online, combined some pie recipes, pulled some rosemary out of my garden on a whim, and incorporated the herb on a hunch.

 


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Ingredients

Crust

1 refrigerated pie crust

Filling

  • 5 cups fresh strawberries
  • 1 cup sugar
  • 3 tablespoons cornstarch
  • 1/2 cup water
  • 3 sprigs fresh rosemary

Topping

  • 1 cup sweetened whipped cream (heavy whipping cream, whipped with a little sugar, or prepackaged whipped cream)

Steps

  • 1) Heat oven to 450°F. Bake pie crust as directed on box for One-Crust Baked Shell, using 9-inch glass pie plate. Cool completely on cooling rack, about 15 minutes.
  • 2) Meanwhile, in small bowl, crush enough strawberries to make 1 cup. In 2-quart saucepan, mix sugar and cornstarch; stir in crushed strawberries and water. Add two whole springs of rosemary and allow them to cook with the mixture. Remove rosemary before the mixture has thickened. Cook, stirring constantly, until mixture boils and thickens. If desired, stir in food color. Cool completely, about 30 minutes.
  • 3) Place remaining strawberries, whole or sliced, in cooled baked shell. Pour cooked strawberry mixture evenly over berries. Refrigerate until set, about 3 hours, before serving.
  • 4) Just before serving, top pie with sweetened whipped cream. Garnish with rosemary sprig. Cover and refrigerate any remaining pie.

 

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Five French Wines You Should be Drinking Now

By Brooke Porter, Market Basket Wine and Liquor

 

The weather is hot then cold right now. Sometimes it can be confusing when trying to decide what to drink. Here are five of my favorite go-to wines for any time of year. It’s no surprise that these wines are French. The only wine that is not French is made by a French winemaker. Therefore, it made the lineup.

Beaujolais

“I don’t know what to drink with dinner tonight, so, I will drink Beaujolais.” Said the Nashville wine importer.  It’s simple and still sophisticated.  Some folks say they don’t like Beaujolais and I believe they have not met the right one. Beaujolais is known for being fruity and un-complicated. Try Domaine Dupeuble Beaujolais. It is a true representation of the region. This is an elegant wine that is not too simple and appropriate for any night of the week.

Rose’

What? All year? Why not? It’s delicious. It appeals to red and white drinkers because it’s kinda both. I am particularly enjoying Cotes du Roses from Gerard Bertrand. The wine is made in a Provencal style that is very popular right now. Grenache, Cinsault and Syrah make up this blend that comes in a bottle shaped like a rose!

White Burgundy

White Burgundy is a great way freshen up your palette when it has been run down by big buttery California Chards. Crisp wines from the Macon River Valley in France are interesting and bright. I particularly enjoy a good Macon-Villages such as Henri Perrusset. This is a well- balanced wine with excellent minerality. There is not too much of anything in this wine. It is one of my favorite Chardonnays.

Cabernet Franc

There are infinitely abounding numbers of great Cabernets but a good, inexpensive Cabernet Franc is rare. It’s like finding a good rare bourbon. It’s just not that easy. Cabernet Franc is father of Cabernet Sauvignon. Many years ago it was crossed with Sauvignon Blanc to make Cabernet Sauvignon. This red wine packs a lot of punch with elegant tannins. Go South America for the Fabre Montmayou Cabernet Franc at a steal at $15.99. The winemaker came from France to make delicious wine in South America.

Cotes du Rhone

Southern Rhone wines in particular that lead with Grenache are always pleasing. I am enjoying the Heritages Cotes du Rhone at $12.99. Woodsy and elegant with notes of baked plum. It nice finish drinking quite well.

 

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…one last thing May-June 2016

By Angel Kane

Behind every successful woman should be a tribe of women who have her back.

“Having it all”  – probably the most analyzed topic of my generation. Scores of columns and books have been written about it. Television dramas have been built around it.  Oprah, undoubtedly, made her fortune by exhausting this subject day in and day out.

From mommy wars to glass ceilings, the point has been belabored for years.

But there is talk and there is real life. And in real life, we do what we need to do to make things work.

At 45, I’m part of Generation X. Our mothers were at the forefront of the fight for equality in the 60’s and 70’s. They went into the workforce at numbers never seen before. Graduated from college at rates higher than the men of their generation and then went on to join successful companies and later built their own. They became leaders and warriors not only at work but in their communities. They learned by trial and error.

We all did. Many of us were the latch key kids. Our mothers preaching that we would one day see the benefit of the trails they were blazing, our young minds not able to comprehend what all this talk was truly about.

FullSizeRender (4)A few Sundays back, many of the ladies in town with whom I often work, got together to celebrate one of our own. Carolyn Christoffersen, the newly sworn in City Judge for Mt. Juliet, is expecting baby number four! A room full of “lady lawyers” who often go to battle against each other gathered to celebrate one of our success stories.

Carolyn and her husband, Marcus, are the proud parents of three beautiful boys and baby boy, Elijah, will make it four. A successful real estate lawyer in Mt. Juliet and now the City Judge presiding over court one night each week, Carolyn, is the product of our mother’s (and father’s) hard work.

As little girls, our generation was taught we could do anything. We quickly became aware there would be sacrifices. Having it all wasn’t all it was cracked up to be.

Nevertheless, like our mothers and because of our mothers, we forged ahead, but this time, a little differently. Our generation having realized that on the road to having it all, there happen to be quite a few divergent paths worthy of our time and effort.

Sometimes on the way to a dream you get lost and find a better one.

No doubt, little boys and girls can both grow up to be whatever their heart desires. But to have it all takes a community. You need a spouse willing to drive carpool when you can’t. You need co-workers who’ll pick up the slack IMG_4617when you’re out on a field trip with your youngest. You need neighbors to cook for you when your parents are in the hospital and you need a church family to pray for you when you are at your lowest and highest.
As women, our generation has realized that we are not interested in competing with other women, instead we hope that we all can make it.

From the women who have chosen to stay home full-time, to the moms who have formed careers around school schedules, to the women who work 60 plus hours a week building their dreams, we can all have it all. We can all make it.

And make it we have. These lady lawyers are smartest and toughest ladies I am honored to know. And when they are not IMG_1878building businesses, arguing cases, representing clients or making new law, they are planning weddings, teaching bible studies, coaching soccer, volunteering at community events, traveling the world and raising the next generation.

We are all on the road together and when we support each other along the road, incredible things can and do happen.

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