Randy rudder

The Richest Man in Mt. Juliet


Randy rudderLike any red-blooded American guy, I’ve always enjoyed my ‘stuff’ – guitars and amps, electronic gadgets and my book and CD collection. And even though, as a person of faith, I know these things are just “wood hay and stubble” that will one day turn to dust and “moths and rust will destroy,” as scripture tells us, it’s one thing to say it and another to literally watch all of your possessions turn to dust before your eyes.

On Sunday August 18, 2002, my wife Clare, our eighteen month old daughter Abigail, and I came home from church to our new home in Mt. Juliet’s Willoughby Station and had lunch. Afterward, Clare and Abigail both lay down to take a nap, and I took a glass of iced tea and the Sunday Tennessean to the back deck to read. After a few minutes, however, the August heat, even under the shade of the patio umbrella, was too much for me, and I returned to the kitchen.

I often wonder how my life would have been different if I had just finished the sports section before retiring to the cool of the indoor air conditioning. If I had stayed a few minutes longer, surely I would have seen the flecks of ash that were beginning to float from the back of our neighbor’s house, where a fire was quickly spreading through their home. He and his family were at the mall that day and would not find out what had happened until later that evening.

After I finished the paper, I drove to the home of my friend David Stinson in Chandler Point, who was going to help me work on my car. No sooner had IRandy Rudder & family gotten there, however, my cell phone rang. It was Clare, speaking in a tone that can only be compared to some sort of “Irish keening”. I had never heard that sound coming from her before. All I heard were the words ‘fire’ and ‘come home now’.

A guardian angel had seen the flames leaping from our neighbor’s house and had rung the doorbells of both of our homes, waking my wife and daughter up. When I arrived, I was relieved to see my wife and daughter standing in the street with several others, looking at my neighbor’s house, as they waited for the firemen to arrive.

Although we felt for our neighbors and their plight, we were glad that no one was harmed. As we stood there watching the flames begin to consume their home, however, the wind suddenly shifted, shooting flames toward the roof of our house. Within seconds, our roof was consumed. At that point, it was too dangerous to go back inside our house to retrieve anything. It had simply never occurred to us that the fire would spread so quickly and with such intensity before the fire department got there. When they came, they were able to retrieve our wedding photos and a box of digital videotapes from under the stairs. I had my car keys and my wallet, and we had the clothes on our back, but over the course of the next fifteen minutes, nearly everything else that we owned was consumed.

A year earlier, we had been living in the Joelton area, but nearly all of our friends were in Mt. Juliet. We loved the people in Wilson County and loved the town of Mt. Juliet and wanted nothing more than to move here, which we did in December of 2001. Little did we know what lie in store for us a few short months later.

The evening of the fire, just as he was about to lead the closing prayer at Two Rivers Baptist Church, Pastor Jerry Sutton was informed of our plight by a church member and announced it from the pulpit. We were at the home of our other neighbors Doug and Christy Gold, and within an hour, we were inundated with bags of groceries, toiletries, socks, underwear, second-hand clothing in our sizes and even financial gifts from friends in Willoughby Station and fellow church members. Alan and Delinia Poenitske offered us the use of their home for the next week while they were on vacation, and during that time, donations of food and clothing continued to pour in. It was then that we realized how blessed we really were to be living here and to have the friends we have.

Randy & AbigailThere are many other positives that came from the fire. I had planned on starting a graduate assistantship at the University of Memphis the next week, where I was pursuing a Master of Fine Arts Degree in creative writing. I had planned to commute and return to Nashville on the weekends, but now my wife and daughter were able to move with me while we sorted through the insurance claims and prepared to have our home demolished and rebuilt. The insurance also paid for our housing while we were in Memphis. And it was actually kind of nice to get rid of all the clutter and junk in our attic and garage and start afresh. It was like having a huge garage sale where everything was guaranteed to sell. The only regret I have when I look back on that time is the fact that, when we got our content settlement, I was tempted to buy an acre or two of land near I-40 but was talked out of it by a colleague who had done well in real estate. “Raw land’s usually not a good investment,” he cautioned, so we put a big chunk down on our mortgage instead. About two years later, though, plans for Providence Marketplace were announced and, well, you know the rest.

The night of the fire, all of our worldly possessions were contained in a few sacks at our feet, but we felt as rich as kings. My favorite scene from the movie It’s A Wonderful Life is the ending, when George Bailey opens the copy of Tom Sawyer to read the note from Clarence, the angel: “Remember, no man is a failure who has friends. Thanks for the wings.” As his friends and neighbors shower him with gifts, George’s brother offers up a toast: “To my brother George, the richest man in town.” I know just how George Bailey felt.

Wilson Living is pleased to introduce our newest writer, Randy Rudder. Randy is from Mt. Juliet and the author of Chicken Soup for the Soul: Country Music edition. He has also worked as an English professor at Nashville State Community College and a writer/producer for The 700 Club. Clare teaches at a home school support program in Brentwood, where Abigail now attends.

Learn more about Randy at www.randyrudder.com. 

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Strawberry Surprise Salad

Food For Thought – How to Make Cake Pops

Cake pops are all the rage, and these yummy little treats are surprisingly simple to make. Have fun experimenting with different types of cake, icing and toppings.


 * Your favorite prepared cake (1 box of prepared cake mix or the equivalent of (3) 8” layers of your favorite recipe)
 * Your favorite prepared icing (1 container of prepared icing or your favorite icing recipe for your cake recipe)
 * Lollipop sticks
 * Chocolate candy melts (available at craft stores)
 * Toppings of your choice (sprinkles, coconut, chopped nuts, candy pieces, etc.)
 * Cardboard stand or styrofoam (both available at craft stores)

STEP 1:Step 1

Crumble the prepared cake into pieces and place in a large bowl.

STEP 2:Step 2

Mix the icing into the crumbled cake pieces until well incorporated. The texture will be similar to cookie dough.


Step 3

Roll the prepared dough into balls. These should no smaller than the size of a quarter and no larger than the size of a half-dollar. If they are too big, they will be too heavy for the lollipop sticks.

STEP 4: Step 4

Melt approximately 1/3 of the package of candy melts. You can use either the microwave method or a double boiler – the package of chocolate candy melts gives you directions for both methods. I personally like the double boiler because the chocolate stayed at the correct dipping consistency longer than with the microwave method. Dip the top of the lollipop sticks into the chocolate and insert the lollipop sticks into the dough balls. Then, chill in the refrigerator for an hour. I found that dipping the lollipop sticks into the chocolate first helps the dough balls stay on the stick, which is very important in the next step.

STEP 5:Step 5 

Remove the cake pops from the refrigerator. Melt the remaining package of chocolate and any chocolate left over from Step 4. Carefully dip each cake pop into the melted chocolate. Dip or sprinkle the cake pop into your topping of choice and place in the stand until the coating is set.

You will find many different accessories and decorations for cake pops in the cake decorating section of your favorite craft store.

Flower CupsThese cute flower cups are a simple way to decorate your cake pops. A huge plus in my book, since I’m not the best cake decorator.

You can also group together several cake pops into a container for a party favor. Whichever way you chose to display your creative treat, it’s sure to be a delicious accent to any event.

Do you have a favorite recipe to share with Wilson Living readers? Send your original, unpublished recipes to Stacey@wilsonlivingmagazine.com.

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Dining with Doc

Dining With Doc – The Cuckoo’s Nest


When Angel asked me to review my next restaurant, she reminded me that this would be Wilson Living’s annual bridal issue, and I immediately knew that I would not have to go far to find the perfect place.

The Cuckoo’s Nest is a great place that I love for breakfast or lunch. But what made it the perfect place for me to write about for this month’s issue is that The Cuckoo’s Nest plays host to everything from bridal showers, bridal luncheons and rehearsal dinners to the reception. And the thing that excites me the most is that it is almost walking distance (or as I prefer, a short car ride) from my office.

Cuckoos NestDebbie Harden opened The Cuckoo’s Nest over 12 years ago. Before bringing her great restaurant to Lebanon, she spent 20 years with a food company catering in Nashville.  Being a native of Middle Tennessee, Debbie got her idea to own and operate a restaurant at an early age. Years ago, her mother managed a small restaurant in the old Castner Knott store in Donelson called ‘The Kettle’.

Debbie’s restaurant resides in a beautifully restored, charming 1930’s “Craftsman Bungalow” style home located just off West Main Street at 120 North Greenwood Street. Almost everything on Debbie’s menu, which changes daily AND weekly, is made from scratch, starting with the homemade bread that is placed in front of you as soon as you sit down. The homemade orange-honey butter is the perfect accompaniment to it. Debbie strives to use the freshest ingredients she can, obtaining (when possible) fresh fruits and vegetables from the local farmer’s market and Mennonites. One thing I learned as I talked with Debbie, that she made perfectly clear, is that her place is NOT a tearoom. “I would call my place a restaurant with upscale Southern food. It’s good food in an elegant, relaxed and peaceful atmosphere,” Debbie explained. And calling her food “good” is an understatement in my humble dining opinion!

I have eaten at Debbie’s restaurant many times, though a large percentage of her patrons tend to be the fairer sex … come on guys, real men do eat quiche! As I stated before, this is no tearoom (though she does have the best fruit tea I have ever had). Even though her faithful patrons that have been frequenting her place from the very beginning got hooked on her homemade chicken salad and her famous strawberry salad with the unique pretzel crust, she started her “hot menu” two years later, and the hits just keep on coming as she strives to keep a wonderful variety of menu offerings. Prime rib roast with bourbon sauce, herb-crusted chicken with parmesan cream sauce, baked rigatoni with Italian sausage and tomato sauce and rainbow trout fillet with lemon caper sauce are just the tips of the iceberg of her delicious and creative offerings. On a recent visit

I had the “Hot Brown”, which is a sandwich with a very Southern heritage. It is an openface sandwich consisting of turkey, ham and bacon, all covered in aCuckoo's Nest mornay sauce and broiled until the sauce starts to bubble or “brown”. It was first invented and served at the Brown Hotel in Louisville, Kentucky in 1926. It was created as an alternative to ham and egg late-night suppers, and it became an instant classic in Kentucky and beyond. Debbie’s breakfast fare is the best-kept secret in town. And I recently took my staff there for lunch. Debbie loves it when someone compliments her restaurant as the first place they have ever eaten a particular food. That happened with us when my I let my Optician, Mitzi Blair, try some of my spinach/gnocchi soup. She had never in her life had soup! Only kidding … she had never had gnocchi before. One bite and she was hooked!

If you like eating good Southern food in a very pleasant atmosphere, then you should certainly give The Cuckoo’s Nest a try. Don’t forget about sampling her fresh and delicious breakfast offerings as well. And brides, don’t forget that she handles private parties at her place for up to 50-60 people comfortably. And she has catered events for upwards of 250 people. She also makes custom ordered desserts and wedding cakes.

The Cuckoo’s Nest, located at 120 N. Greenwood St., is open Monday through Friday from 7 a.m. until 2 p.m. Nest, located at 120 N. Greenwood St., is open Monday through Friday from 7 a.m.

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Married or Soon To Be


ReflectionsSpring is a wonderful time of the year. Not only does nature begin to wake up from its long dormant winter hibernation, but also another strange but normal phenomenon begins. The beauty of blooming flowers, greening lawns and barren trees adorning themselves with newborn leaves and symphonies of songbirds stirs something in the human race. Thoughts of love and romance begin to fill the air often culminating in spring weddings for many couples. Have you ever wondered why there are so many weddings in the spring? Spring weddings come from a long line of traditions, which would not be relevant to our modern times. But none the less you can sense that romance and marriage are in the air.

When couples stand before a preacher or a magistrate and pledge themselves to each other, they fully intend for their commitments to be lifelong ones. Tragically about half will end in divorce. There are a number of reasons why this happens, but one that many fail to realize is the huge differences between men and women. Now the physical differences are obvious, and usually the first thing which causes us to be attracted to each other. But there are a few things that are not so obvious. Understanding those differences can make a huge distinction in getting off to a good start in both dating and marriage.

God made men and women different for a purpose, so they could complement each other. They do this by understanding and supplying each other’s needs.Reflections The Holy Scriptures teaches us that, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Men and women need each other. In order to supply each other’s needs, we must first understand what those needs are.

Men should strive to understand the two basic needs of women. The first is the need for security. A man must be present and accounted for in times of crisis. Women need the soft shoulder and strong arms of their men in times of uncertainty and disappointment. Men should be careful not to give the love of their lives reasons to be jealous or feel threatened by other women. A man should compliment his wife daily. A man should always remember he is married to his wife and not his mother, and he should never compare the two (cooking, house cleaning, etc.) After they are married, men should continue to date their wives once a week. You wined and dined her to get her to throw in her lot in life with you, now don’t upset things by failing to treat her special. Realize that a prize worth all that effort should be cherished and not taken for granted.

Women need to talk, and men should learn to listen. A man should find a time each day to let his wife talk. Remember your wife may have spent all day communicating with a two-year-old, and she is ready to talk with an adult. The second basic need is homemaking. I can sense some thinking maybe that is a little old-fashioned. Most women want a safe, warm and attractive environment to live and raise their children in. A woman’s touch makes all the difference in the home. A wise man will take note of that and aid her efforts. Move the furniture around when she asks, noting that furniture was never intended to last a lifetime. Honor her request and spring for some new furnishings now and then. If she works outside the home, throw a load of laundry in the washer for her. Step up and do the dishes on occasion and offer to take your turn bathing the children.

It is also important for women to understand the two basic needs of men. The first need involves his ego. Ladies, I’m sure that one really caught you by surprise (ha). A wise woman will never tear her husband down at home, criticizing or correcting him in front of others in public. Subtle nagging at home will slowly eat away at his ego and self-confidence. A wise woman will build her husband up in front of their children. A wise woman will verbally convey to her man that he is the best, and he’s meeting her needs. A second basic need of men is food. A man’s home is his castle. His home is his place of escape from the outside world. This is where he retreats and feels most important. Home is where he can let his guard down and be himself. There is an old saying that probably has some merit to it – ‘the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach’. Men tend to be less understanding and more irritable when they are hungry. A wise woman will not serve the problems of the day to her man as soon as he walks in the door from work. It would be wise to wait until after supper when he’s fed and usually more relaxed, and his frame of mind has mellowed.

ReflectionsIf men and women approach their relationships with a giving attitude and the idea of understanding and trying to meet the other’s need, in most cases the result will be seeing their own needs met as well.

Sound advice for the married and soon to be married: Developing a good relationship is not a 50/50 proposition, as some would have us believe. It requires a 100% effort and commitment by each one. Relationships built on giving and not taking are the ones that endure. Seek to be a giver and not a taker, and you might be surprised what you receive in return. Best wishes for a long and happy life together.

Roy is a national Conference, Seminar and Retreat speaker and can be contacted at Roy@royharris.info or view his website at www.royharris.info.

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A Memorable Experience awaits at Watermelon Moon Farm


Arriving from Lebanon on Trousdale Ferry Pike to Watermelon Moon Farm is an excursion into the past. You’ll wind through the rolling hills of east Wilson County, along Jennings Fork Creek, with century-old stacked stone fences bordering the highway. It is the last residence you will come to before crossing into Smith County. When you reach Watermelon Moon Farm, owned by Emily Steinburg-Cash, you’ll experience true southern hospitality and enjoy mouth-watering country cooking with a gourmet twist. If you are looking for a unique location for a party, luncheon, reception or wedding, Watermelon Moon Farm offers a memorable experience. “We have hosted luncheons for church groups, baby showers, birthday parties, Red Hat ladies, bridal parties, garden clubs and friends who simply want to get-together,” said Emily. “Weddings often include use of the grounds as well as the main home,” she added.

The farm’s beautifully restored antebellum home, listed officially on the National Register of Historic Places as the “Wm. Washington Seay House,” was built between 1835-1845. Restoration of the plantation house is an ongoing labor of love (in more ways than one) for Emily and husband, Harold Cash. It has quality craftsmanship believed to have been influenced by Mr. Seay’s trips to New Orleans, with ornate woodworking and stone masonry.Emily and Harold Cash

After years of living in Florida, Emily, a Smith County native and nationally known artist-designer, had a revelation while driving to Tennessee for a family visit. She said, “It’s time to come back home.”

She had a long list of requirements for her new home. Topping the list was architectural character and country living. She found all of that and more at the old Seay farm. She also brought her successful custom-designed arts and crafts business with her. Soon she named it “Watermelon Moon Farm,” after her passion for painting watermelon motifs on home décor and stargazing. Little did she know that divine providence, and the nudging of some friends, would bring about romance, too. Retired Army First Sergeant (Special Forces) Harold Cash came to assist Emily with computer repairs, and their business friendship culminated in love and marriage in June 2004. Harold’s carpentry skills and love of the country life made him a perfect match for Emily, although it couldn’t be described as “retirement”. The couple’s hard work has resulted in a charming, relaxing historic home, which they are delighted to share with others. A farm wouldn’t be complete without farm animals to greet you, and roosters strutting and crowing their wake-up call. Emily and Harold have given a loving home to chickens, goats, guineas (that’s a type of fowl for you cityfolk), their Great Pyrenees dogs and cats.

Watermelon Moon Farm is open seasonally, kicked off with an annual open house in the spring and ending with a Christmas event. All events both public and private require reservations. (The farm is not open to the public daily.) The lower level of the home is transformed into a combination of dining areas and gift shop, featuring an abundance of hand-crafted home décor, gifts, gourmet foods and art available for purchase.

Watermelon Moon FarmThroughout the spring, summer and fall, numerous events are held, including an Easter luncheon, popular Mother’s Day luncheon, open houses and other events. Emily is a gifted cook and hostess, a talent she said she inherited from her mother. Luncheons at the farm are truly special experiences. You’ll find no paper plates when dining with Emily and Harold. Silver, linens, antique china and water glasses, and “artfully styled fresh flower arrangements add ambiance,” Harold winked and said. The long, wide front porch is also perfect for serving or dining or simply relaxing in the porch swing and rocking chairs.

Watermelon Moon Farm’s tranquil location and large antique church window are a beautiful setting for country weddings and receptions, with plenty of room for additional tents and parking. Package pricing for your event is also available.

You and your guests might enjoy your visit to the farm so much you’ll decide to come back and stay awhile.Watermelon Moon Farm Harold and Emily can accommodate you in their bed and breakfast cottage, the “Summer Kitchen Suite and Peacock Room”. The B&B was constructed in the detached summer kitchen at the rear of the home and includes a full private bath, sitting room and cozy bedroom, complete with custom art details and a view of the garden. Guests will be treated to a wonderful country breakfast and stress-relieving atmosphere.

Emily’s long career in handpainted art and handcrafted décor, along with the farm’s workshop, provides the perfect venue for her painting classes and crafting workshops. She is an accomplished instructor and hosts the workshops throughout the season.

Watermelon Moon Farm in Wilson County is literally a stone’s throw away from the Smith County line, at 10575 Trousdale Ferry Pike. It is approximately 4.5 miles off the I-40 Linwood Road exit and 4.5 miles from the Alexandria exit, or you can enjoy the country drive from town on Trousdale Ferry Pike. To view the calendar of events, workshops and learn more about the farm, visit www. watermelonmoonfarm.com. You can also email wmmoonfarm@yahoo.com or call (615) 444-2356. Be sure to leave a message on the phone so they can call you back. Emily and Harold might be out back gardening or feeding goats.

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Dreams.. in delicate proportions



If you have rounded the Lebanon square lately, no doubt you’ve noticed some new storefronts. One of those new shops is Dreams Boutique.

Dreams Boutique opened in late 2011 by Wilson County residents, Beverly Carter and Jesse Fish. The idea, inspiration and original concepts for specialty foundations, workout gear and a custom fit bra boutique arose, as they often do, with a need and yearning to help women feel confident.

“We were both just so sick of driving into Nashville just to find the right bra or going to huge retail outlets where there’s no one to fit you only to get home and find out I just spent $80 on something that’s too uncomfortable to wear. And ordering sportswear online is a nightmare for some people. So with all that and the fact that most of our friends are training for some type of race we knew there’s a market for our concept.” Jesse Fish says excitedly while checking out a loyal customer.

Jesse and Beverly met more than 3 years ago while both worked at Cracker Barrel’s Corporate office. It was while working in merchandise buying that they learned the buying side of retail; gaining insight that enabled them to open Dreams. Beverly adds, “The combined knowledge we both learned helps us with the daily running of the store. We are continually learning, but would not have felt we could make this work without the experiences we were blessed with.”

Beverly and Jesse have a talent for fitting, design, and helping women find the perfect yoga pants, pajamas, specialty fit bras and coming soon, bathing suits. With their combined education and desire to find foundations without driving all over Nashville, they mutually decided there was a great need for expansion in this industry, and the need to provide more education for women and fitting. “An overwhelming amount of women today are wearing the wrong size bra. Wearing the wrong size bra can lead to back and posture issues as well as be uncomfortable. As we gain and lose weight, our bra size changes as well, so it is always good to be sized each time you purchase a bra. Bras are like every other item of women’s clothing; they are not all made alike or fit alike, so you must try it on and not just purchase the size you have always worn. You may be surprised at how comfortable a good fitting bra can be.” Jesse says.

The inspiration for a unique, specialty boutique that provided a personal experience was quickly realized and soon thereafter, Dreams Boutique opened its doors in 2011. With sleepwear brands like PJ Salvage and Dearfoams; workout gear by Marika, intimate apparel by Panache Lingerie plus fragrances and, accessories and coming soon, swimwear Dreams Boutique has it all!

Dreams Boutique specializes in a wide number of custom bra proficiencies, such as: Bra Fitting, Plus Size Bras, Custom Lingerie, Corsets, Bustiers, Plus SizeDreams Boutique Lingerie, Strapless Bras, Sports Bras, Bridal Lingerie, and much more. Stop by to meet these lovely ladies and all their store has to offer.

Looking for something fun to do for the bride to be or just a fun girl’s night out? Let Dreams Boutique host your bridal shower or GNO. For booking information call Jesse or Beverly at 615-547-9799 

Dreams Boutique – Store Hours

Mon – Fri: 10:00 am – 5:30 pm

Sat: 10:00 am – 3:00 pm

www.DreamsBoutique-TN.com 615-547-9799

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Prom to Remember

A Prom to Remember


Prom to RememberSo, you’ve finally mustered the courage to ask a girl to be your date to this year’s prom, and she said yes. Phew! Now all you have to do is throw on a tux, pick up the girl, bust some moves on the dance floor and make some lasting memories, right? Wrong. Unfortunately guys, we have to accept that a whole lot of planning goes into that one night which seems to be a defining factor of our high school era. Many things need to be done in preparation for this special evening, some of which include choosing a tuxedo to match her dress, picking a corsage, deciphering what a corsage is, planning the transportation, the list goes on. In the following paragraphs we will explore the avenues to a successful prom night for you and your special girl.


One thing that needs to be accomplished well ahead of time is choosing your tuxedo style and getting measured for that perfect fit. It may not seem like a big deal to us guys, but for the young lady you will escort, getting dressed up, looking lovely and being perfectly matched to her date are important. Once the dress is chosen, bring a good picture or extra piece of fabric from the dress when you are choosing the colors of your tux.


Finding a corsage and a boutonniere (in case you’re wondering those are the flowery accessories worn on the girls’ wrists and the guys’ jacket, respectively) is something that you will want to discuss with your date. Once chosen, the corsage will need to be arranged by the florist, and a time will be set for you to pick it up on the day of prom.


No matter how much you hate having your picture taken, you’re going to have to buckle down and smile quite a lot on the day of prom. Some schools provide a photographer at the prom from which you can order pictures, and maybe you’ll get away with just posing for those. More than likely, though, you, your date and possibly your group of friends will meet at a chosen place beforehand to take your own pictures.


Whether you’re riding to prom with just your date or with a group a friends, make sure you know who’s driving and what vehicle you’re taking. Often, a group of friends will rent a limousine for the night to take them to prom in style, usually sharing the cost. If that’s something your group has planned, make sure someone is actually organizing it, and it’s not just a bunch of talk; because, believe me, that could get messy.


If the prom you’re attending will not be providing dinner, then you need to decide on a restaurant and make reservations well ahead of time. Guys, make it somewhere fancy – your favorite mom and pop country store may have really good fried chicken, but I think your special lady may be looking for something a little more classy. Once you’ve chosen a restaurant, be sure to make reservations at least two weeks in advance.


There will be many di‹fferent things that you and your date can do after the official prom is over. Some people will throw parties, some people will have a night on the town somewhere nearby, and some people may just end the night and go home. Discuss with your friends what they’ll be doing afterward and decide with your date what the two of you will do.


The Big Day has finally arrived. Make absolutely sure that you have everything you need. When you pick up your date, make sure you are very polite and speak to her parents; they trust you to take care of her while the two of you are out, so don’t make them worry.

From this point forward you will probably be assaulted with camera flashes more times than you can count. If you’re meeting friends, make sure to arrive on time so that you don’t delay anyone else’s plans. And most importantly don’t stress about the night, just make sure you and your date have an enjoyable evening. Prom will be an event that you will look back on for the rest of your life, so be sure to have fun making those special memories.

Gabe Farmer is a Freshman at Union University majoring in Journalism. Gabe is a native of Lebanon.

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Long Live Bachelorhood

“It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man is in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.” –Jane Austen Bachelorhood
(1775-1817) English novel


BachelorhoodAh, the bachelor, a life of wavering singlehood free from the burdens of domestic doldrums, no hen-picking wife to plan out your free time or lay out your clothes, no passel of kids to monopolize your free time and money, no in-laws to please or family forced upon you … in other words, freedom!


“It’s not that I’m opposed to marriage as an institution,” explained German Knowles, a recent transplant to the Lebanon area from California and self-appointed, confirmed bachelor. “It’s great for people who want to get married and have that lifestyle. I’ve had long-term girlfriends and situations when I lived with a girlfriend for a long time, but when the word ‘marriage’ starts to become part of nearly every conversation and I feel pressured to do it or end the relationship, I feel backed into a corner – as if we can’t go on being happy and living well together without going through with the whole ‘big day’. Why can’t we just live together and be happy?”

There is a long list of bachelors throughout history who have shared German’s views – men who have been highlighted and practically celebrated for their aversion to walking down the aisle. Here are a quite a few names you might recognize: Vincent Van Gogh, King Ludwig II (Mad King Ludwig), President James Buchanan (The Bachelor President), Sherlock Holmes, Thomas Aquinas, Beethoven, Franz Schubert, Johannes Brahms, Maurice Ravel, Frederic Chopin, George Gershwin, Ludwig van Beethoven, Edgar Degas, Edvard Munch, Leonardo DaVinci, Isaac Newton, Adam Smith, Arthur Schopenhauer, Voltaire W.H. Auden, Immanuel Kant and Henry David Thoreau.

BachelorhoodThere are some also very famous bachelors who continue to garner celebrity and curiosity by their continued singlehood: GeorgeBachelorhood Clooney, Ryan Gosling, Orlando Bloom, Jesse Metcalfe, Jamie Foxx, Hayden Christensen Stephen Chow, Jake Gyllenhaal, Carson Daly, Ryan Seacrest and Colin Farrell.

German said he doesn’t admire or look up to famous bachelors, but he also doesn’t agree with stereotypical ideas and snide quotes about men who haven’t married by a certain age. “I’m not saying I’ll never get married, but at this point I can’t see that happening,” he remarked, tapping the tabletop and noticeably taking notice of a lovely young lady passing nearby. “Do I want to live alone all my life? No, not especially.

Have there been circumstances that have contributed to my ‘bachelorhood’? Sure. I tend to put family first, which has also been a hindrance to some women in my relationships – it’s why I’m back in Tennessee now. And who knows, I could find the woman I’m meant to marry here. It could happen. But in the meantime, I know how to cook very well, I enjoy quiet nights with a bit of wine and good conversation, and I like kids … that sounded like a personals ad.”

And with a slow, deliberate smile, German added, “When does this issue come out again?”

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The Venue..

Perfect for Wilson Living; Perfect for Your Event

Walking the property of Legacy Farms, I have the immediate feeling of familiarity. It is so pleasant, easy and welcoming. Not only are the owners welcoming to their property, but the environment is inviting. The estate is expansive and there’s so much to take in visually. The main house, was an old civil war hospital. It is in great condition, clearly cared for over the years as a bed and breakfast.

The owners, kind, and business-savvy couple Kellie and Jerry Bryson originally started their business, with the focus on food. They have now moved into being owners of a special event company located in the heart of Nashville. They have expanded their years of hard work and knowledge through experience on their trade (studied since 1997), to Wilson County. Kellie and Jerry are striving to strengthen Legacy’s presence in the community. Right now, they are working with several non-prof t groups for the non-prof t’s fundraisers, as well as participating in the Lebanon Chamber of Commerce Awards banquet. It was refreshing and gave me a sense of community pride when Kellie emailed me, “We have found such a welcoming attitude by city and county officials as well as wonderfully friendly neighbors.”

Going back to the property, since buying the space, they have freshened the interior of the Event Center and will be updating the decor of the Manor this winter. If you are curious on the space, many shots for the bridal shots were used in the Manor, and any interior shots of the bachelors this issue, were taken in the Event Center…we had limited time, so many other gorgeous areas were not able to be highlighted by our cameras this issue. I would encourage you, if interested in having a wedding, or just a large event of some sort, to schedule a tour for yourself or a group. Preview the space yourself. What better time than spring to take advantage of walking around historical acreage?

A few interesting facts for those of you who are soon-to-be brides…they offer all-inclusive packages for not only weddings, but also special events and conferences. Most bride and grooms have full-time careers, and they are not wedding planners, so Legacy’s staff will put wedding packages together to help take the stress out of the special day…I think, who knows the venue better than it’s owners? That’s a bonus. Last fun fact: Legacy has gained recognition in the country music crowd, hosting numerous celebrity photo shoots and a music video shoot!

If you would like to schedule a tour of the property, call Kellie at 615-321-2394 to book a formal or casual walk-thru.

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